The Self-Worth Mentor for Women
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Hi, I’m Nikki.
I help women set boundaries, prioritize themselves, and finally feel worthy.
Before I became the woman I am today, I lost myself completely—twice. What I teach now is what I wish someone had told me when I was lost: how to stop putting yourself last, set boundaries that actually hold, and finally believe you’re worthy of more.
31 was the year I cracked opened.
To understand why, let me take you back further.
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Chapter One: Losing Myself the First Time
At 20, I made a bold move: I left college for a high-paying sales career. For a while, it worked. I was earning six figures, living in a beautiful condo, driving a nice car.
Then 2008 hit—and I lost it all.
My job, my independence, my sense of who I was. I moved in with my grandmother, and not long after, found myself in a toxic relationship. I felt judged, defeated, completely lost—like the woman I thought I’d built was gone overnight.
Even in the middle of my mess, I still believed things could change if I refused to settle. I threw myself into personal growth, read everything I could get my hands on, and started rebuilding, piece by piece.
I found a new career and rebuilt my finances. I left the toxic relationship. On paper, I was winning again: top performer, awards, recognition.
But I was running myself into the ground to get there. I said yes to everything out of fear that slowing down meant losing it all over again. Long hours. Barely sleeping. Neglecting my health. Success didn’t fix what was actually wrong—I still didn’t believe I was worthy, no matter how much I’d achieved.
Recognizing I needed real help with my life was the turning point. I finally got honest about what wasn’t working and hired a coach of my own, and it changed everything. I confronted old wounds, set real boundaries with family for the first time, and learned that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival.
I thought I’d learned that lesson for good. I hadn’t—not fully. It would take losing myself one more time, in a completely different way, to really understand it.
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Chapter Two: Losing Myself Again In Motherhood
Years later, in the season I was “supposed” to feel the most fulfilled—early motherhood—I lost myself all over again.
Somewhere in the middle of feeding schedules, nap times, and never having a moment that was fully mine, I stopped taking care of myself. Not on purpose. It happens slowly, one skipped workout and one “I’ll eat whatever’s easiest” at a time.
I numbed out most nights with a glass or two of wine and hours of Netflix—not because I wanted to, but because it was the only escape I could find. I felt guilty every time I asked for help, as if needing a break made me a bad mom. I was exhausted in a way sleep couldn’t fix, and somewhere in there, I stopped recognizing myself. My identity, my ambition, my sense of who I was outside of “mom”—all of it felt like it had quietly disappeared.
The shift was this: instead of always putting myself last, I began to prioritize my own needs—setting boundaries, taking care of my health, and believing I was worthy of more, right alongside my family’s needs.
And almost immediately, I noticed something. I became more present. Happier. Genuinely energized instead of just running on empty. More loving, more fun, more playful—the version of me my husband and daughter had been missing, without either of us fully realizing it. That shift was so real, so undeniable, that at 42, I said yes to trying for baby #2—something I couldn’t have imagined agreeing to in the depths of that burnt-out, resentful season.
Breaking the Pattern, For Good This Time
Once I saw how much prioritizing myself changed everything, I couldn’t unsee it. I started making real changes—not resolutions that faded by February, but actual boundaries and habits that stuck.
I stopped saying yes to every playdate, birthday party, and activity I didn’t actually want to attend. I let some motherhood friendships come to a natural close—the ones that no longer had room for the woman I was becoming. I told my husband, clearly and without guilt, that we needed to invest in more childcare support. I hired a personal trainer—not just for the way I looked, but so I could feel strong and at home in my body and my mindset again.
I gave myself a sober October and ended up letting go of alcohol altogether because I felt clear, energized, and truly at peace in my own skin. I swapped hours of Netflix for books that actually filled me back up. I started making time for things that truly nourished me—not just hobbies, but deep self-care and investments in my own growth.
I gave myself permission to roll out my yoga mat and breathe, even if only for ten minutes in the morning. I took walks every day, just to clear my mind and connect with myself. I cooked meals that made me feel healthy and strong, and chose workouts that felt good to my 40s body—no more punishing routines, just movement that brought me joy.
For the first time since becoming a mom, I let myself say yes to what I really wanted: joining women’s retreats, investing in business coaching, and surrounding myself with women who understood what I was reaching for. I realized that making space for myself wasn’t selfish—it was the fuel I needed to show up fully for everything and everyone I love.
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Where I Am Now
Today, I'm a more present, energized, and connected version of myself—for my family and for me. My husband gets back the woman he fell in love with. My daughter gets a sillier, more present mom. And I finally have the support to step back into my ambitious, entrepreneurial side again. All while saying yes, at 42, to the possibility of baby #2—something I never could have imagined during those burnt-out, resentful days.
Two chapters, two seasons of losing myself completely, and the same lesson relearned each time: putting yourself last costs too much. Now, helping other women find their way back to themselves and their dreams is my mission—so they don't have to lose themselves twice to finally learn it for good
Why I Do This Work
I created The Worthy Woman Experience, a 3-month group coaching program for women ready to stop hiding and start living as their true selves, because I know how easy it is to lose yourself—even when it looks like you have it all together. I’m not here to offer quick fixes; I’m here to share the tools and support that changed everything for me, so you can finally give yourself permission to prioritize your needs, your wants, and your goals, right alongside everyone else’s.
If Any of This Sounds Familiar
If you’ve read this far and something in my story feels a little too familiar, that’s not a coincidence. The Worthy Woman Experience is for the version of you that’s still second-guessing herself, still putting her own needs last. You’re worthy of building the life you actually want—not just the one you’ve settled for.
You deserve to choose yourself, and you don’t have to wait as long as I did to start. The rest of your story isn't already written. It's waiting for you to write a new page.
The next cohort of The Worthy Woman Experience starts on October 1st. This is your chance to prioritize yourself. Your new beginning starts here.